Anonymous said: how do i know if I'm bisexual or not? recently i've been getting to know this girl (in just a friend way-im a girl-she's a lesbian) and i think i might like her but i still like guys too... i don't really think of either girls or guys sexually, either, because to me, sex is for marriage so i don't think about it much. but am i bisexual or bicurious? please help!
(You seem to be implying a disparity between being a girl and being a lesbian, but I don’t think you intended that.)
You seem to be bicurious, so you’re already open to the possibilities. It’s up to you to adopt the label if ever the time comes that you finally know. It does seem to be that you have a problem with the -sexual part of the label than you do with the bi- part.
There’s another aspect to attraction that asexual individuals like talking about that still applies to everyone; it’s called romantic attraction. You may not be sexually attracted to those of the same sex, but it seems likely that you can be romantically attracted to your lesbian friend, if not to those of the same sex, in general.
Personally, I’m not sure how I can help you, because it’s a process of discovery unique to each person. I could be a reference and a supporter, but it’s really up to you to go through the process.
In any case, please don’t hesitate to come back. Take care! :)